Energy Is Everything

Writing by Sara Calabro on raising your frequency

Create your future from the present (not the past)
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Create your future from the present (not the past)

Ever hear something you’ve heard before but experience it in a whole new way? This happened to me when I came across an idea in Steve Chandler’s book Right Now. Steve says, “…most people…plan their future based on the past….what if I chose not to do that?”

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The insidious pain of ‘fine’
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The insidious pain of ‘fine’

“It’s fine.” “I’m fine.” “We’re fine.” How often do you say this? Things aren’t terrible and they aren’t great. They’re fine. Our default is to accept this as “life”—just the way things are. But nothing is fine. Fine is a label we give to things that are manageable yet lacking the life force we desire.

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Spring is more than a season
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Spring is more than a season

This year spring is arriving at an especially disruptive time. Many of us are feeling confronted by change, fearful of unknowns, and helpless amidst great suffering. The energy of spring offers an antidote, a blueprint for how to create from—rather than react to—this moment.

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This is my favorite way to feel
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This is my favorite way to feel

I’m developing my capacity to honor and appreciate all my feelings. But I can’t help it: I have a favorite. My favorite way to feel is “balm”—buzzy yet calm. Buzzy without calm borders on jittery and nervous. Calm without buzzy can be uninspired and boring. Balm is the sweet spot.

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Chicken or egg: Feelings and actions
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Chicken or egg: Feelings and actions

Which comes first? Do your feelings determine your actions, or do your actions determine how you feel? This chicken-or-egg question comes up a lot in coaching conversations. I don’t have definitive answers but I have some observations on the relationship between feelings and actions.

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What if there was no right decision?
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What if there was no right decision?

On most decisions, big and small, you’re probably spending more time and energy than you need to. We all do it. We get convinced that if we turn it over enough times in our brains, look at it from enough angles, the correct answer will present. The only problem with this is it doesn’t work.

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Doing is different from making
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Doing is different from making

I recently baked bread for the first time. After nurturing my sourdough starter and watching YouTube videos for almost a month, I felt ready to DO this. Then, as I found myself consumed by the process, I realized this felt different from doing something. I was making something.

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“Not enough time” is not a thing
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“Not enough time” is not a thing

If you knew with certainty that you had plenty of time for everything you want to do, what would you create? Most people go blank when I ask them this question. Or they tell me it’s impossible to answer because their responsibilities—never mind desires!—exceed the hours in a day.

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The gap between knowing and doing
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The gap between knowing and doing

Does this line of thinking resonate with you? You know things—things that, if addressed, could help you move closer to the life you want—and yet often you do nothing about them. For most humans, there’s a gap between knowing you want to shift something and actually doing it.

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Try this to stop your thought loops
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Try this to stop your thought loops

I just started a new training program on Positive Intelligence (PQ). The program is about how to strengthen the part of your brain that serves you and quiet the part that sabotages you. Here is the most useful thing I’ve learned so far for halting my thought loops. It’s weirdly simple.

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When things don’t go as planned
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When things don’t go as planned

I live in Los Angeles. My family and our home are safe. Many—way too many—were not so lucky. The devastation and loss being experienced in our city right now is overwhelming. This wasn’t the plan. For many of us, 2025 has started out much differently than expected.

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How have you never been?
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How have you never been?

I counted. In the days leading up to 2025, I read four separate articles containing a quote from Rainer Maria Rilke: “And now we welcome the new year, full of things that have never been.” I couldn’t resist following suit. Rilke’s quote cuts to the core of reinvention.

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Case study: Should I stay or should I go?
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Case study: Should I stay or should I go?

E. arrived at coaching wanting to make a decision: Stay in their current location and expand their business, or choose a new place to move and start over? They wanted help developing trust in themselves so they could make the decision (and future ones) with confidence. 

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Why coaches don’t tell you what to do
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Why coaches don’t tell you what to do

It can be disorienting and initially disappointing to discover that your coach doesn’t tell you what to do. In school, at work, and in medical settings, we’ve been conditioned to look to outside experts for answers. Experts are great. And coaches are experts too—just not in giving answers.

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Ask yourself a different question
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Ask yourself a different question

Are you stuck on something? A decision about your job? Your business? A relationship? Where you live? Where to travel? What to wear? Who to invite? What to say? What to order? One of the fastest ways to get unstuck—on any topic, in any area of your life—is to ask a different question.

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Magic is the new gratitude
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Magic is the new gratitude

A routine gratitude practice has been shown to boost energy, decrease stress, improve relationships, and build resilience. If you have a gratitude practice that serves you, keep doing it! For me, despite abundant evidence supporting gratitude as a beneficial practice, I haven’t had luck with it.

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You don’t have to quit your job
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You don’t have to quit your job

There can be this idea that in order to show up differently in your life, you need to blank slate everything—quit your 9-5 job, start a business you LOVE, collect passive income while barely lifting a finger, and live happily ever after. This is a misunderstanding.

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Case study: Coaching after a layoff
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Case study: Coaching after a layoff

My conversations with D. started when he was weighing whether to continue along a traditional corporate path or explore an entrepreneurial venture that aligns with his passions. After a few conversations, the universe intervened: D. received unexpected news that he was being laid off. We got to work.

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The anatomy of a reinvention
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The anatomy of a reinvention

Reinvention is not linear. The stages of your process may repeat, overlap, go faster or slower than expected, and/or resurface just when you thought you were done. Although each reinvention is unique in its timeline and direction, I’ve identified three distinct stages.

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You can own the holidays
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You can own the holidays

This is not a pep talk about loving the holidays. You don’t have to love the holidays. You don’t have to hate the holidays. You don’t have to do anything. This is an invitation—to spend the holiday months paying more attention to how you’re being than what you’re doing.

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