When we talk about doing something “one day,” it’s usually said with an air of wistfulness. I’ll take that trip one day. I’ll leave my job one day. Talking about your dreams this way infuses them with resignation. It doesn’t have to be like this. You can flip the script on “one day.”

When we fear regretting our decisions, we live on the fence—caught between the person we are and the person we want to become. This is no way to live. I have a powerful strategy for hopping over the fence and into a life of action—and never regretting another decision.

What do I want to do with my life? This question plagues so many people. It plagued me for decades, too. “What do I want to do with my life?” stopped being a problem for me when I started asking a better question. A seemingly small distinction is actually a life-changing reframe.

The dictionary defines reinvention as “the process through which something is changed so much that it appears to be entirely new.” Entirely new! Just reading that gives me a jolt of excitement. If you're also excited by a fresh start, remember it is always available to you.

Is there something you’ve been wanting to do? Or try? Or say? Something that’s been on your mind or heart for a while but you never feel ready? Your “I’m not ready” stories separate you from the life you know deep down you’re capable of creating.

You’ve heard it a million times: Put on your oxygen mask first. Still, so many of us put other people’s needs before our own. We do it in our families and with friends, at work, even with acquaintances and strangers. Late summer is an excuse to prioritize yourself.

Two types of performance come up in coaching. One leads to external rewards. The other leads to internal turmoil. Many people arrive at coaching wanting improvements in the first type, yet addressing the second type is the unlock for achieving external results.

When we’re young, if we have an impulse to paint a picture or play an instrument or ride a bike, we don’t run it through a filter of what other people will think or how much money we could make doing it. We just do it. Who were you before fear and judgement clouded your view?

Ever wish you could turn back time? Unsay that sentence. Take that opportunity. Invest that money. Make that decision. Try that thing. Start that project. We wish we could erase or change moments from our past because we’re convinced it would put us in a better position today.

I’ve noticed something in my coaching practice: Reluctance to make decisions leads to suffering. My clients who struggle to take options off the table, to close certain doors, have a slower (and often more strained) progression toward their goals.

We say we want things—and often complain when we don't get them—yet we don’t make space for them to come forward. Sometimes, the things we want are right in front of us. But we can’t see them because we’re too attached to routines, stories, and programming that keep us stuck.

Ever get a new idea, a glimmer of something that excites or intrigues you, then dismiss it by telling yourself “it’s too late”? If you’re somewhere between your early 40s and early 60s, author Gwendolyn Bounds would tell you that’s your “midlife assassin” talking.

Scroll through social media or walk through a nice neighborhood and you may think success is determined by where someone goes to school, lives, or works. Or by their family, friends, or partner. These things might influence your likelihood of success but they don’t predict it.

Life purpose can feel elusive. One of the best ways to find it is noticing when you feel lost. When we discover the path we're on isn't going where we want it to, we tend to feel anxious and blame ourselves. But getting lost is an intrinsic part of finding what you're looking for.

Decision making is something that comes up often in coaching sessions. A lot of clients get stuck on making decisions because the "how" feels unclear. There are too many unknowns. Because unknowns are scary, it's easy to fall into a pattern of avoidance.

Box-checker syndrome is a condition where your life feels like a never-ending list of boxes to be checked. The box-checking pattern is so ingrained that it’s difficult to loosen the grip long enough to examine the boxes and make sure you’re checking the right ones.

Ever get a new idea and feel really excited about it, only to be completely disinterested a few days later? Or maybe you jump in, feel like you’re headed down the right path, start seeing some success... then suddenly you’re overwhelmed by all the reasons it won’t work?

If you’re feeling lost, rejected, confused, sad, angry, defeated, scared, or hopeless because your personal or professional life isn't where you hoped it would be right now, I have a tip: Don't underestimate what you can accomplish in one year.

The best compliment is not what you think. It has nothing to do with how you look, or how much money you make, or how smart you are. Although often well intentioned, those types of compliments come from culturally conditioned thinking. This one is different.

Once you’ve decided to take the plunge and try working with a coach, there are some important things to know so that you can get the most out of your sessions. Here are 4 things you can do to improve your chances of having a great coaching session.